What is it about us crazy humans that makes us think that whatever pace we are progressing at is NOT fast enough? So and so has lost ALL THIS WEIGHT and I only lost a pound! Or, look at his abs! They are an EIGHT PACK and I am a fat slug!
Look, y’all. Rome was NOT built in a day. And as much as you like to tell yourself that you’ve ALWAYS been fat, unmotivated, lazy or whatever else CRAZY-NEGATIVE-SELF-TALK-GARBAGE that you have in your daily highlight head reel- THAT didn’t happen overnight either. You’ve accumulated that through a lifetime of experience and PUT IT THERE YOURSELF. And the only person capable of removing that toxic shit is YOU.
In order to TRULY engage body, mind, heart AND soul you have to flip the switch on the negative internal dialogue.
The ONLY WAY TO DO THAT is to make small daily adjustments. EVERY. DAMN.DAY.
Those tiny little adjustments in thinking, in food choices, in the choice to get off the stupid couch and walk the dog, or work out, or make healthy dinner instead of take out, or to just go outside….any and all of those little progressions are PROGRESS.
Progress by definition means that you are moving forward. So cut yourself some damn slack- and prepare for the long haul. It’s made up of a million small progressions over time.
We are born pretty damn near perfect. Then the world knocks us around, negativity starts to permeate our little souls and we develop coping mechanisms. And guess what? Most coping mechanisms are NOT good. They are just a way to fill that void, balm a wound, hide a hurt.
As adults struggling to get healthy we start to realize that we need to UNDO all of those crazy little coping mechanisms, and reverse that self talk that tells us “You aren’t good enough, smart enough, nice enough, sexy enough, don’t make enough money, etc.”. Which is MUCH harder than just losing weight. Losing weight is much easier- it’s losing that unhealthy side of yourself that enjoys self-sabotage, self-deprecation and wallowing in self pity. THAT is the truly hard part. But once you get ALL OF YOU on board? You become an unstoppable force of awesome that just so happens to feel great too.
Now, if this sounds like I am aiming this little rant AT YOU- then yes. I am.
So listen up:
My challenge to you is this- Every morning when you wake up and that sly, mean, bitchy little voice perks her/his nasty little voice up in your head, you SQUASH THAT BITCH!
He/She has NO BUSINESS in your brain! That is YOUR sanctuary. YOU OWN THAT SPACE NOW.
Look yourself dead in the eye (selfie/mirror- doesn’t matter) and you tell yourself ONE nice thing. Start out small if you have to.
You have a nice smile.
You have a kind heart.
You have great hair.
You are a sexy motherfucker.
Whatever- I ain’t here to judge. AND NEITHER ARE YOU. So stop being your own worst critic. Think about how powerful you would feel if you had someone strong, vital, real, and GODDAMMIT! SEXY AS HELL in your corner, IN YOUR MIRROR- Every day.
That would make you the strong, sexy, smart, vital person you already are. Only difference is now you are finally recognizing it as fact.
(At least that is what I tell myself. Sooner or later it WILL sink in- I am a tad more stubborn than most)